A Simple Plea for Help

3 Mar

Unlike my usual posts, this one will not be filled with humor or expletives. Instead, I’m reaching out to my followers, beseeching them to help a family truly in need.

I have a beautiful niece that I don’t get to see nearly enough. Her mother, while no longer with my brother, is someone I hold very dear to my heart and still consider a “sister”. She recently got married and had a beautiful baby boy just after Christmas. She was the happiest I’ve seen her in many years. It seemed each day was better than the last. That was, until last week. Last Thursday, this beautiful woman was devastated by the sudden loss of someone very close to her. Her uncle David was killed in a single-vehicle accident. He was only 41 years-old.

David Parker

David Parker

While technically her uncle, he was more like a brother because they were relatively close in age. As a girl, he was her playmate. She jokes that as a child, he was her “first love” and that she thought she’d marry him one day before she knew what love was or the rules associated with it or marriage.

David & K

Her uncle David feeding her as a newborn

Into adulthood, though they lived a ways apart, they remained very close. He was also close to his great-nieces. They adored him as my friend and her siblings had growing up. David was single and did not have children of his own so he cherished the time he spent with them.

David and his great-nieces

David and his great-nieces, H & T

David and H

David and H

David never got the chance to meet his great-nephew. The last time my friend saw him, she was near the end of her pregnancy with baby K. My friend is heartbroken that baby K will never know David and how wonderful he was.

David, my silly friend & baby K performing tricks

David, my silly friend & baby K performing tricks

David, being a single man with no children of his own, unfortunately never planned to die unexpectedly at such a young age. He never thought his family would be left behind without the financial means to lay him to rest. But that’s what happened. Even though they only arranged a modest burial service, the cost is far beyond her family’s monetary resources. There is no insurance money to help – not even from the auto policy as the vehicle he was driving had liability insurance only. The small amount of savings David had has been exhausted and barely put a dent in the costs. The family is beside themselves.

The loss of someone as special and wonderful as David was, has been devastating enough for this family. They shouldn’t have to worry or stress over how they are going to bury someone they loved so much. They should be allowed to properly grieve him and make their way towards healing the terrible wound that his loss has made in their hearts. Instead, they are having to contemplate financial ruin just to pay for this. That’s not an exaggeration. We’re talking about family members having to drain every cent they don’t have to bury their family member. No one should ever have to make these kind of decisions.

I know a lot of us live paycheck-to-paycheck. We have vacations we are saving for, budgets we adhere to so we can one day be out of debt, kids that seem to always need something for school, and the list goes on. But, if there’s anyway you can spare a little in order to help this heartbroken family, I’m begging you, my followers, to help if you can.

There has been a GoFundMe account set up for the family. They are trying to raise $3,500 just to pay the balance of the funeral costs but to be honest, they need more. At least one family member has already drained their account to put towards the funeral. They actually need $5,200. So far, the GoFundMe account has only raised $800. While the family is extremely grateful to have raised even that much through the kindness of strangers, the balance they need is overwhelming.

Please, if you can, give. If you can’t give, share. I beg you all to share. It only takes a second to post this on Facebook or other forms of social media. The more people we reach, the more likely this family will have peace of mind knowing they were able to provide a proper burial for this beloved man without financially crippling those left behind. I have the link to the GoFundMe account below. On behalf of me and the family, thank you in advance to those of you that choose to give and/or share this. You have no idea what a difference you’ll make from this one small gesture. In closing, I’ll leave you with a quote that reflects how I try to live my life. Oh, what a world we would live in if everyone strived to live this way.

“I don’t want to live in the kind of world where we don’t look out for each other. Not just the people who are close to us, but anybody who needs a helping hand. I can’t change the way anybody else thinks, or what they choose to do, but I can do my bit.” ― Charles de Lint

http://www.gofundme.com/nkjpm4

Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

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5 Responses to “A Simple Plea for Help”

  1. Pissed off March 5, 2015 at 11:58 pm #

    And may I add… read this part again.
    “I don’t want to live in the kind of world where we don’t look out for each other. Not just the people who are close to us, but anybody who needs a helping hand. I can’t change the way anybody else thinks, or what they choose to do, but I can do my bit.” ― Charles de Lint

  2. anonymous March 5, 2015 at 7:32 pm #

    You know I understand losing a family member is tough and expensive. I know first hand that they will work with you like almost every type of organization with a billing department but you think using bitchinmommy as a title is going to influence anyone into donating. I’m not trying to be confrontational but is it just me that does not feel right sending money to a total stranger referring to themselves as a bitch. I’m sorry for your loss. God won’t give you more than you can handle.

    • bitchinmommy March 5, 2015 at 10:27 pm #

      In response, Anonymous, let me just address this:

      I’m not trying to be confrontational but is it just me that does not feel right sending money to a total stranger referring to themselves as a bitch. I’m sorry for your loss. God won’t give you more than you can handle.

      You obviously did not read, or dare I say, understand this post. This was not my loss. This was not money for me. This was money for a family in need. I was reaching out for someone other than myself. Maybe you’re not familiar with that concept. If the title or theme of my blog offends you, then why ever did you read it? You saw the name of it before you clicked on the link. I’m positive you had every intention of being confrontational otherwise you wouldn’t have wasted your time commenting.

      Kudos on taking something that was meant to be a hand up to a grieving family and using it to try and shame me. Implying I’m just trying to get handouts from my followers (you know the people that actually READ my blog) could in no way be misconstrued as confrontational, right? Insinuating the donations aren’t needed as “every type of organization with a billing department will work with you” isn’t inflammatory at all, correct? I will not go into details over what this family did trying to get help with the ridiculous expense of the very meager services they had for their loved one because it’s none of your business. Do not make assumptions about whether or not they sought help from charitable or religious organizations or if they tried to set up payment plans because you know nothing.

      As far as this Bitch is concerned, you are the lowest common denominator. Trolling a blog meant to seek help from the blogger’s community to assist a devastated family says all I need to know about someone that hides behind an anonymous moniker. You are a coward, you are heartless, and you are not worth another moment of my time. Well, one more moment. Your email address is telling. Do they know you’ve escaped MentalPatient70?

      • jennifer galster March 5, 2015 at 10:49 pm #

        I love you. I don’t have any extra cash right now… Long story but I would give if I could!! Let’s catch up!

    • Pissed off March 5, 2015 at 11:40 pm #

      What the hell? I was there. Sitting in that funeral home planning that service. Under no circumstances will that funeral home work with families. Another family member, my great-uncle was almost not embalmed and was going to be put rotting in front of people for his funeral because the family didn’t have the money to embalm him. They will hold the body and not release it or do a service until it is paid in full. Until you have lived in this God forsaken town and had to bury a family member here, go screw yourself. I don’t even use that type of language on social sites but you’re ridiculous. I sure hope you never have to fund a funeral. Or maybe I do so you can experience what we’ve been through. Amanda reached out for the sake of humanity, unlike you.

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